Love SOS – Is my partner having an affair?
If you’ve made a beeline for this particular article, chances are that right now you’ve got that sick feeling that comes from wondering if your partner is having an affair.
The classic approach to answering this love-dilemma is to present a list of signs that tell you that they are being unfaithful. These should come with a huge warning that I will explain – but for the record the telling signs go along the lines that they have suddenly changed their behaviour, becoming a lot more secretive and unaccountable for where they are and what they are doing, they have begun to pay a lot more attention to their appearance, they ‘work late’ a lot, spend hours on the internet and click away from sites when you walk in the room, go into a different room to read mysterious texts that they won’t explain, run up mystery bills, stop making plans that involve you and so on.
The thing is, all of the above can be a sign that they are straying, but all of these behaviours can also have totally innocent explanations. They may be worried about work and trying to hide that from you, or even planning a romantic surprise.
Signs like these can be very telling, but I think the most important sign is our psychic intuition. When that starts screaming that something is wrong, we really need to pay attention.
Having said that, our own agendas massively interfere with our ability to understand and work with our psychic intuition. If you have a pattern of being abandoned in your relationships, it is also possible that your own multiple experience of people leaving have left psychic scars that are interfering with what your psychic intuition is trying to tell you. That’s when we really need to take care, because the more we convince ourselves that we just ‘know’ someone is being unfaithful when actually we are responding to an old fear of abandonment that belongs to a much earlier relationship, the more we can start acting in an over-controlling way, policing our partner’s every move, message and mood until we drive them away and then we can say, ‘I told you so.’
This is why developing insight and cleaning up our psychic act is such an important part of working with psychic intuition.
Overall, I would suggest that if you are seeing a few or all of the signs that I’ve listed, and/or your psychic intuition is shouting as loud as it can that there is something going on, and you’re clear enough to know that your psychic warning system is sounding in relation to something in the present rather than something in the past, then it might be time for you to sit down and initiate an honest conversation with your partner.
Hopefully, they will be able to blow away all of your fears. But if you find out that they are seeing someone else, that’s when you have to really trust that whatever unfolds from that very moment is for your highest good and trust that the universe will take care of you. Not all affairs signal the end of a relationship, and not all relationships are supposed to last forever. But you are not alone. Hopefully, many of my free articles and free videos will help you, and such times are when we really need to call on friends, family or other support networks that are out there.
Know that you will come through whatever you are facing. I can’t tell you how many times I have felt the end of a relationship is the end of the world. They never are. They are the end of a cycle, marking the start of something else, something better. That is there for you too, and that’s the thing that you can hang on to that will pull you forward into a whole new life.
Loads of love,